I'm not nearly as crusty as I probably seem and can often be found wiping a sentimental tear or two from my face as one of my young friends proceeds joyfully down to the aisle to his or her starter marriage. Okay, sorry. That was cynical. But it is one of the reasons I no longer approve of enormously expensive weddings.
If you've got debt and recurring expenses or if you have sensible, responsible goals for yourself and your beloved, it's a good idea to work out how you can give your selected guests and wedding party members a glorious experience and yourself a truly joyful memory (rather than the starring role in a pageant, with all the pressure this entails). I've been to quite a few weddings in my time and I've been the confidante for many a hysterical bride and long-suffering groom.
It's supposed to be the joyous beginning of your happy marriage, not the happiest day of your life (and God help you if it is). To read more, go to Love in the Tie of the Internets.